In A Way With Words, Christin Ditchfield identifies ways we can be tempted to use our words to wound:
- Unsolicited or unbiblical advice
- Not so constructive criticism
- The truth not spoken in love
- Humor that “gets out of hand”
- The silent treatment
Another way is to cast up the past (pp 28-29).
According to the dictionary, to cast is to “throw or hurl or fling.” That’s what we do when we cast up the past. We get into an argument, and we throw in people’s faces every mistake they’ve ever made, every sin they’ve ever committed. We remind them over and over of their greatest moral failure, their most humiliating defeat. It’s our way of putting them in their place or pointing out why they can’t expect us to trust them. God says he’s forgiven and forgotten, but we haven’t—and we want to be sure they know it. They might think they have good news, an exciting opportunity, or hope for the future. We think we’re doing them a favor by bursting their bubble and reminding them of how wrong they’ve been before. Believe it or not, there is someone whose official job is to cast up the past, to throw it in everyone’s face: his name is Satan. The Bible calls him “the accuser of our brothers,” because that’s what he does day and night (Rev. 12:10). He works overtime to torment believers with the memory of sins and failures that have long been covered by the blood of Jesus. Do we really want to be his helpers?
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