The loss of a husband yields a tremendous grief unlike any other. Marriage is the most intimate of relationships, and to lose your life partner leaves a deep and painful wound.
In The Undistracted Widow, Carol Cornish explains through experience that the key to healing is to cling to Christ, adopting an attitude of love and gratitude. Remember the vows you made on your wedding day? “‘Til death do us part.” Praise the Lord, you and your husband made it to the end. As beautiful as marriage is, it is simply a picture of something far greater—the love of Christ for his Church. Christ cherishes the widow without the mediating love of her husband. Christ is her friend. He will never leave her. He is the lover of her soul.
Cornish encourages widows to pray this prayer based on Psalm 63:
My soul holds tightly to you; it follows after you with intensity, for clinging is a result of cherishing. I am thankful for your nearness, for the gracious gift of your presence with me. Your powerful right hand won’t let go of me. It is the foundation of my confidence. You will bring me through this valley of grief, and when I emerge, may I be more like you.
Adapted from The Undistracted Widow: Living for God after Losing Your Husband, p. 42.