In lieu of Valentine’s Day, we thought it timely to consider how relationships, and marriage in particular, must be rooted in something other than romance.
Some of you already know that you don’t always feel romantic feelings toward your spouse, especially when he or she is not being particularly lovable. A healthy marriage of love, unity, and understanding must first be rooted in worship.
Worship in this sense is not an hour once a week full of songs and a sermon. Rather, worship should be our identity, the thing drives our every decision. We should not be driven by our career, our spouse, or our hobbies. It should be rooted in pleasing God in every action.
So what does this look like in marriage? Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Worship God as Creator. Look at your spouse as an artistic creation of God. He designed every trait and talent your spouse possesses. Seeing your spouse in this light will help you treat him or her with the respect God’s creation deserves.
- Worship God as sovereign. He brought you and your spouse together through unforeseen circumstances. You bring different backgrounds and experiences into the marriage that should work together, not serve as points of conflict or ridicule.
- Worship God as Savior. It doesn’t take long to realize that you have married a sinner. As you reflect on God’s saving grace for you, you will be reminded that your spouse is not the only sinner in the room in need of redemption. This will allow you to be more graceful and forgiving toward your spouse and encourage their growth and redemption
Content from What Did You Expect? by Paul David Tripp. As a little holiday gift, we’d like to give away two signed copies of What Did You Expect. Here’s how you can win. Simply leave a note in the comments section telling us either 1. Practical ways you and your spouse worship God in your marriage 2. Tips or elements from a successful marriage that you’ve experienced or witnessed in others or 3. Why you’d really like a copy of this book.