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Pride vs. Humility in Marriage

A great hindrance to fellowship in a marriage is pride—self-confident, self-exalting, self-protecting pride. Pride is perhaps the most deceptive, pervasive, and multifaceted form of sin, and it plays a central role in virtually all sin. One way the foolishness of pride comes out in our communication is in our love for our own voice and opinions.

Consider this proverb, just one of many that ties our speech to wisdom and foolishness: “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion” (Proverbs 18:2). In contrast, humility yearns to learn, because it recognizes its deficiencies (Proverbs 12:15).

Check out the chart below on pride vs. humility in marriage (modified from Love that Lasts by Gary and Betsy Ricucci).


February 10, 2011 | Posted in: AAA - BLOG UPDATE,Life / Doctrine,Marriage,Marriage / Family | Author: Crossway Staff @ 1:21 pm | (5) Comments »


  1. Excellent chart. Pride comes before a fall (Prov. 16:18). Failure to submit our pride before the Lord can not only cost us our marriage but other friendships, our ministry and even our careers. We need to constantly keep a check on pride. It can sneak up on us and grab a hold of our hearts at any moment.

    Comment by Liam Moran — February 11, 2011 @ 3:58 pm

  2. this very revealing, there are something we do not knowing its from a heart of pride, this calls us to be more cautious

    Comment by toyin — April 5, 2011 @ 3:57 pm

  3. This is an excellent chart that not only for married people but for everyone to know . I need to learn to be more humble and less pride. This would help every relationship we have. Be humble and be forgiving in our life is the solution. Mary Lynn McDavid-Yohn

    Comment by Mary Lynn McDavid-Yohn — July 17, 2011 @ 7:18 pm

  4. Thanks for this brief study on the subjects that either attract the Lord’s grace or call upon His resistance and judgment. I have been blessed by your insight. Even though I have written a complete book contrasting in detail those two rivals, entitled PRIDE IN CONTRAST TO HUMILITY, now what the Lord revealed to me in the writing of that book makes more sense. His revelation was that ‘no single volume of book could be sufficient to amply expose pride (which is ultimately personified in Lucifer) and humility which is fully personified in the Lamb that takes away the sins of the world hence full of grace and truth. I have learnt something more on the subjects. May the Lord continue stirring up all those following your posts to never settle for enough but always have the blessedness of a hunger that knows its poverty in spirit and desires to know more and more. Thank you once again.

    Comment by Okweda FraNCIS — May 20, 2013 @ 4:56 pm

  5. What if you have a partner who does not recognise themselves as prideful?

    Comment by Tebogo — June 6, 2014 @ 3:41 pm

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