Excerpt modified from Date Your Wife by Justin Buzzard
I know men who have pages and pages of plans for their business, their finances, and their hobbies but have never written down a single sentence of planning for their marriage. Vows, dreams, ideas, and good intentions aren’t enough. A man needs to plan. I encourage men to view their marriage in one-year chunks and to draft an annual plan for how he will date his wife.
Drafting an annual plan for dating your wife starts with the “air war” of your marriage—this is planning for when your B-52 Bombers will fly overhead to drop major artillery and troops in support of your marriage, helping you push your marriage forward in significant ways.
There is no one right way to do this. Every marriage is different. Every wife is different. You need to create an annual plan that’s unique to the dream God has given you for your marriage and your wife. To help jumpstart your own creativity and planning, below a sample of an annual Date-Your-Wife Plan. This one is for a couple who does not yet have kids.
Every marriage operates on a different calendar. Some men craft plans that follow the calendar year—January through December. Other men craft plans that pivot on their anniversary date. The plan Taylor and I follow is in sync with our anniversary (August 16) and the academic calendar. This works well for us since we have three kids that will soon be in school and since I’m a pastor and my work tracks with the academic calendar.
Air War Goals:
Enjoy a “twelve-month honeymoon.” Once a month get out of town for two nights to date my wife, cultivate our friendship, grow our romance, have fun, and relax. Because of our tight newlywed budget, this will be done in the most cost-effective and creative manner possible. Instead of spending money throughout the month on meals out, entertainment, and other items such as expensive coffee drinks, we will save that money and use it toward our monthly getaways.
Total Annual Cost: $1,725
Cost of Not Doing This: ?