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A Loving Life Giveaway

“I’m not exaggerating when I say that this is the most honest, timely, and helpful book I’ve ever read about the costly and exhausting demands of loving well. And at the same time, A Loving Life is the most faithful, alluring, and encouraging presentation of God’s love for us in Jesus I’ve fed on in years.”

Scotty Smith, Teacher in Residence, West End Community Church, Nashville, Tennessee

How Do You Love With No Love in Return?

Best-selling author Paul Miller tackles this question at the heart of our struggle to love.

A Loving Life: In a World of Broken Relationships offers the help we need to embrace relationship, endure rejection, cultivate community, and reach out to even the most unlovable around us as we discover the power to live a loving life.

A Unique Giveaway

With this book’s important message, we wanted to create a giveaway geared towards this foundational biblical command.

To enter the giveaway, please answer this question in the comments below:

Who in your life has loved you even when you were difficult to love and how did they express that love?

Five winners (selected at random) will receive a free copy of the book along with a $20 Starbucks gift card. If you win, perhaps you could take someone out for coffee or a delicious treat as a way to show your love and appreciation for them. The giveaway will end at midnight on January 19th.


January 14, 2014 | Posted in: AAA - BLOG UPDATE,Book News,Giveaways / Contests,News,Uncategorized | Author: Matt Tully @ 8:30 am | (39) Comments »


  1. I would have to say hands down my husband loved me when I was difficult to love. He has never wavered in his commitment to me and we’ve been married almost 22 years now.

    Comment by Stacy — January 14, 2014 @ 9:42 am

  2. My husband has loved me for 28 years. I can be difficult to love at times, but he expresses his love to me by never leaving but always cleaving. Read Mr. Miller’s book The Praying Life, it is on my top 10 list and I re-read it every year.

    Comment by Jody Gates — January 14, 2014 @ 9:44 am

  3. My wife, every day, by smiling at me and hugging me even when I am difficult to be with.

    Comment by Arthur Fox — January 14, 2014 @ 9:46 am

  4. I’m also going to say my spouse :-). I have OCD and in our early marriage did not want to go on medication for it. He put up with me in spite of how difficult it was to deal with me and supported me. Eventually I did go on medication and the OCD is now manageable.

    Comment by Debi Martin — January 14, 2014 @ 9:49 am

  5. My husband,friends and daughter are all wonderful, but I am going to say my mother has truly seen me at my worst and loved me anyway. She is mentally ill, and for that I treated her with such disregard in my teen years and even some into my twenties. I am glad she’s been so loyal and stuck around so I could make it up to her!

    Comment by Mary Jenkins — January 14, 2014 @ 10:01 am

  6. My wife is the person most obviously in this category. She has lived with me for almost 49 years now, and is wonderfully affirming, despite my numerous shortcomings.

    Comment by Terrance Tiessen — January 14, 2014 @ 10:38 am

  7. That would be my husband! When I am being my most difficult, he always speaks kindly, quietly and tells me that he loves me anyway. I have been downright rude and hurtful and he remains quiet and steady.

    Comment by Carrie, Reading to Know — January 14, 2014 @ 10:40 am

  8. The person who has demonstrated the most amount of unconditional love towards me despite my stubbornness, frustrations, and struggles with depression in ministry has been none other than my wife. Within the past six months there have been some major difficulties in my ministry setting. And in a very undeserving way, my wife bore the brunt of my frustrations. But despite my frustrations, she has demonstrated vast amounts of grace while speaking some very hard truths into my life. And for that I am grateful to God to have her as my wife.

    Comment by Derrick Adams — January 14, 2014 @ 10:56 am

  9. Without question my wife. She has loved me without criticism of my faults, and she continues to support all that I do.

    Comment by Chris Nyland — January 14, 2014 @ 11:09 am

  10. With out question it is my wife. She continues to support me regardless of my faults.

    Comment by Chris Nyland — January 14, 2014 @ 11:10 am

  11. Without question it is my wife. She continues to love and support me regardless of my faults.

    Comment by Chris Nyland — January 14, 2014 @ 11:11 am

  12. My parents loved me when I was difficult, disobedient, and dishonoring. They showed their love through forgiveness and through being generous with me.

    Comment by Brian Watson — January 14, 2014 @ 12:02 pm

  13. My husband. I know, maybe cliche, but so true. Marriage is hard work and I am not loveable all the time. When he tries to lovingly confront me with something I need the Spirit to work on in my life – I often don’t respond well at first. Its tough. But, he continues. And he is committed to fight every day for our marriage – and that’s what makes being married to him – a joy.

    Comment by Kimberly Campbell — January 14, 2014 @ 1:08 pm

  14. My mom has been through so much with me rebelling to live some love affair! I am so blessed she never gave up on me and forgave me. And I appreciate God’s unconditional love so much better through her.

    Comment by Doris — January 14, 2014 @ 1:22 pm

  15. My mom’s prayers have brought me back from my lost ways. I am so grateful!

    Comment by Eric — January 14, 2014 @ 1:24 pm

  16. I am so blessed to have the daughter that I have. Her living her life as a Christian woman has brought me closer to God as well.

    Comment by Mariam — January 14, 2014 @ 1:25 pm

  17. Who in your life has loved you even when you were difficult to love and how did they express that love?

    My wife has loved and continues to love me even when I’m difficult to love by patiently correcting me and calling me to repent.

    Comment by Robert Ward — January 14, 2014 @ 2:26 pm

  18. My Mother and Father, even when I blow up and get mad, they always support and love me in every thing I do not matter how I act, they’re a testament to Gods great forgiving love and forgiveness!

    Comment by Zac — January 14, 2014 @ 6:25 pm

  19. I would have to say my wife who has stayed by me through 26 years of marriage in pretty difficult circumstances including a long-standing struggle with depression (mine) as well as many other shortcomings on my part.

    Comment by Steve Richie — January 14, 2014 @ 6:53 pm

  20. Every day my wife, Peg loves me even though I am grumpy and generally a curmudgeon. She expresses it with patience and good humor even though she lives with diabetes and it’s long term effects (recently she had to have a toe removed from infection). This past year has been hard since I have had to work a job I don’t want to be at. But she has encouraged me with her smile and loved me through my lack of cheer. She has been an added gift of grace from my Heavenly Father!

    Comment by Dan Oberg — January 14, 2014 @ 7:31 pm

  21. My wife Angela. She manages to point me to Christ even when I’m at my absolute worst. She just has a way to communicate with a look a loving yet stern “Don’t you dare to backslide.”

    Comment by Victor Chininin — January 14, 2014 @ 7:54 pm

  22. My wife Kristen has shown me unconditional love throughout our marriage – she understands and gets forgiveness and the gospel in the way she loves me and our children.

    Comment by Scott — January 14, 2014 @ 9:44 pm

  23. My mother loved me in all the ugly throes of high school, even when I was so in love with a girl that I spent much more time out of the home than in it. She’s always been a rock solid provider and comforter, the person to whom I could go for solace from the worries that adolescence can bring.

    Comment by Mike Solis — January 14, 2014 @ 10:13 pm

  24. My adoptive mother, Linda. She has always been supportive of me no matter what. She showed me this love through my teenage years by never arguing with me, but instead, showing me by example how to treat others. She would always tell me to show others that I love them through actions, and not just words. She is the most gentle and genuine person I have ever known. I would love to win this, take her for coffee, and thank her.

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    Comment by Stephanie Gossett — January 14, 2014 @ 10:46 pm

  25. First and foremost, God. Of course, my son, and just like everyone else, my spouse. I must say though, my parents. They’ve seen me at my absolute worst, and I’ve done things I’m not proud of when I was growing up, yet they never gave up on me. They always had their home and their arms open. A parents love is unconditional, but it’s sad that some parents are not that way. They were always there to help, in any way I needed it, and still, to this day, they continue to be the same!

    Comment by Christina — January 15, 2014 @ 12:00 am

  26. It is interesting to read about everyone’s spouses. That must be because we see each other behind closed doors, we see what no one else sees on a daily basis. The smiles come off when no one else is looking. I join these testimonies. My husband has loved me whenever I have not handled life well behind closed doors. He has truly been handed the “in sickness” part. And while the Lord has been my strength and has proven His grace to be sufficient, my husband has still had to love a wife that lives with an unpredictable chronic illness, which means he doesn’t know from day to day what my strength will be, what my frame of mind will be, what my mood will be, what my emotional needs will be, what my spiritual needs will be, whether I can be active or need to be in bed. He plans his every day around my needs without ever, and I mean an unqualified never, complaining or throwing his hands up in frustration. Every day he gives me understanding and grace and the freedom to be who I am. And who I am isn’t always pleasant, though in another loving way he would never say that. He bears with me in the true spirit of forgiveness and grace we read throughout the pages of Scripture. I thank God for him.

    Comment by Patti — January 15, 2014 @ 11:26 pm

  27. My mom loved me when I was an unlovable High School junior who never listened and lived a terribly destructive life. She understood something of the gospel then that I barely understand now.

    Comment by Andrew — January 16, 2014 @ 10:31 am

  28. My mother. Her life continues to inspire me to become more like Christ. She exemplifies such love and compassion to those around you, even to those she has a hard time loving. For example, when I irritate her, she overcomes that by being very patient with me and having the mind of Christ to fill her thoughts.

    Comment by Eunice — January 16, 2014 @ 10:51 am

  29. It sounds like a pretty common answer here, but definitely my wife. She shows such grace to me all the time. My kids would be a close second :)

    Comment by Matt H — January 16, 2014 @ 8:47 pm

  30. My wife. When I’m impatient or rude, she demonstrates her love with calm and polite responses. Even when she calls me out, she does it with grace. Her strong commitment to be in my corner is amazing. Additionally, not only has she faithfully practiced that kind of love, she has passed it on to our children. I am one lucky guy!

    Comment by Robert B — January 17, 2014 @ 9:24 am

  31. My mom has loved me unconditionally. So patient, constantly forgiving, that it amazes me when I look back how I rebelled and must have hurt her when I was younger. I’m so blessed and thankful to the Lord for her.

    Comment by Amy — January 17, 2014 @ 6:36 pm

  32. I would have to say my parents, especially my father. Whenever I was young and being “difficult” my father would lighten my mood by doing or saying something to make me laugh and I would forget what would be upsetting me. A parent’s love is unconditional and I didn’t realize the power of that love until my kids and grandkids. My father passed away in 2012 and I miss him making me smile but I know he is smiling being with our Lord!

    Comment by Robyn L — January 17, 2014 @ 10:21 pm

  33. My wife has showed me love, during illness dan hard times

    Comment by Fajar — January 18, 2014 @ 1:28 am

  34. my wife who submits to me even when I can be a huge jerk. The best example of grace, patience, hope, and love that I’ve ever known.

    Comment by Travis — January 18, 2014 @ 10:25 am

  35. My Pastor is someone who has loved me in difficult times. Whenever I have become frustrated with school or my job, he would always take me out to coffee, counsel me and encourage me. He helped me not only become a better student, but a better listener and a follower of Christ. He is someone when times were tough not only listened but his counsel was encouraging for me to change. I am thankful for my pastor.

    Comment by Evan Knies — January 18, 2014 @ 2:22 pm

  36. My wife. Through these hard times, she continues to love me, support me, and to care when life seems hards. Through hardship, turmoil, jobless, and spend countless overnights accompanying me at hostpital, She has been a great wife indeed!

    Comment by eben — January 18, 2014 @ 2:55 pm

  37. The only true answer I can give to this is God/Jesus, because ONLY He knew everything that was in my heart and every sin I committed. I hid it all very well. It is because he loves me so, that I am where I am, and have become the person I am, today. He pulled me out of a self-made gutter (with help from the enemy) just in the nick of time. I serve Him today with my whole heart and my life is forever changed for His amazing agape love. Praise Jesus!

    Comment by Stacey L — January 18, 2014 @ 3:02 pm

  38. My wife. Even in difficult times when my dad committed suicide and the time when my Mom was going through Dementia, she allowed me the time to deal with it both during and after.

    Comment by Ken Lupton — January 18, 2014 @ 4:25 pm

  39. I would say my father. He always has kind words for me and believes the best in me even when I disappoint him.

    Comment by Madeline — January 18, 2014 @ 10:37 pm

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