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The Ethics of Birth Control (Part 4): Is Birth Control Abortive?

This post concludes our four-part series on the ethics of birth control. Here, Mark Driscoll discusses five “levels” of birth control and the biblical and scientific amorality of each of them.

Adapted from Religion Saves: And Nine Other Misconceptions.

There’s no doubt the Bible says children are a blessing, but the Bible doesn’t seem to address the specific topic of birth control. Is this a black-and-white topic, or does it fall under liberties?

Level 1: No Birth Control

At the very least, every Christian married couple should cover every aspect of their marriage with prayer, including future children God may bless them with. Through prayer, the Christian couple is demonstrating faith in the goodness and sovereignty of God over all of life, including the womb.

Some Christian couples determine to use only prayer in their family planning. As a result, they simply enjoy normal marital sexual relations and trust that if God desires that they have children, he will provide according to his timing. When a Christian couple chooses this approach, trusting that whatever happens is God’s good will, it is acceptable.

Level 2: Natural Birth Control

Natural methods include any kind of contraception through which pregnancy is prevented by abstaining from vaginal sexual intercourse on days when the wife is likely to be fertile. The most popular natural method is the calendar-based rhythm method, which has been replaced by more effective methods such as the symptothermal method and the standard-days method. Fertility computers are a new development in contraceptive technology that make these natural methods easier to use by telling a couple when sex will or won’t result in pregnancy. The Roman Catholic Church approves the use of natural methods.

Natural birth control methods have many benefits, including the involvement of both husband and wife, as well as the fact that such methods are free, safe, and reversible. Additionally, these methods require no surgery, chemicals, devices, or drugs. Natural methods can also be used with other methods, such as a condom, during fertile times. One of the potential difficulties is that natural methods require discipline and planning, which not everyone is equally faithful to ensure. In conclusion, natural birth control is permissible for a Christian couple.

Level 3: Non-abortive Birth Control

Like the natural methods, non-abortive birth control methods also seek to influence the timing of conception but do so by taking either temporary or permanent additional measures. This method of birth control has quite a long history.

Temporary non-abortive birth control methods are generally barrier methods. Barrier methods of contraception include all methods that permit intercourse but prevent the sperm and egg from coming together. Perhaps the most common is the male condom, which was invented three thousand years ago by an Egyptian couple using a linen pouch.49

Permanent non-abortive birth control methods are often chosen by couples who have decided not to enlarge their family. (For the purposes of this chapter I am referring to voluntary versus involuntary sterilization.) Such preventatives can be achieved by either female sterilization, also called tubal ligation, or by vasectomy for men. Both of these methods require minor surgery and should be considered permanent, although it is theoretically possible, but difficult, to undergo a reversal.

Three things need to be mentioned regarding permanent non-abortive birth control methods.

  • First, the heart needs to be examined regarding motive on this issue; this method should never be used to completely abandon the blessing of children.
  • Second, it is unwise to make this decision too early in life, because it is not uncommon for a couple to later desire more children, or for someone to remarry after being divorced or widowed and desire to have children with their next spouse.
  • Third, some Christians are legalistic on this issue and declare that there is essentially never a good reason for such a permanent measure. However, life in a fallen world is complicated and painful. A pastor and his wife, good friends of mine, suffered eighteen miscarriages before he had a vasectomy to stop what had become for them incredible physical and emotional pain.

To summarize, levels 1 to 3 are options that Christian couples can consider without concern of terminating a fertilized egg, thereby taking a human life.

Level 4: Potentially Abortive Birth Control

At the next birth control level we tread into murkier waters, where it is more difficult to discern what is biblically right. “The pill” is a categorical term for more than forty types of oral contraceptives, which are also referred to as birth control pills and sometimes combination pills because they contain a mixture of estrogen and progestin. These hormonal contraceptives are designed to override the female body’s normal cycle and “trick” the woman’s brain into believing she’s already pregnant, thus preventing the release of an egg from the ovaries.

Birth control pills were introduced to America in the 1950s. In 1965 the U.S. Supreme Court declared unconstitutional the nineteenth-century law prohibiting the use of contraceptives.65 Today, fifty to sixty million women worldwide take the pill each day, and it is the most widely prescribed drug in the world.66

The Pill Debate

The debate over hormonal birth control, particularly the pill, is whether it results in the taking of a life by destroying a fertilized egg. Author, pastor, and pro-life leader Randy Alcorn has written a great deal on this subject.69 Alcorn writes, “The Pill is used by about fourteen million American women each year. Across the globe it is used by about sixty million. The question of whether it causes abortions has direct bearing on untold millions of Christians, many of them prolife, who use and recommend it.”

Alcorn goes on to point out that there is not one but rather three purposes for birth control pills.

  • First, the pill exists to inhibit ovulation, which is its primary means of birth control.
  • Second, the pill thickens the cervical mucus so that it becomes more difficult for sperm to travel to the egg.
  • Third, the pill thins and shrivels the lining of the uterus so that it is unable or less able to facilitate the implantation of the newly fertilized egg.

The bottom line is this: the first two purposes of birth control pills are contraceptive in nature and therefore acceptable for use by a Christian couple. However, the third function of birth control pills is potentially abortive in that it seeks to disrupt the ongoing life of a fertilized egg. That potentiality is incredibly controversial; thus, faithful Christians who are staunchly prolife and believe that life begins at conception are divided over the issue.

To help provide some clarity, Focus on the Family’s Physicians Resource Council (PRC), under the leadership of James Dobson, examined the issue for two years. The PRC is comprised of prolife Christian doctors from a wide variety of fields. They sought to thoroughly study the issue of whether combination oral contraceptives (those with both estrogen and progesterone) cause abortion. Ultimately, even they were undecided:

Pro-life physicians who have carefully and conscientiously studied this issue have come to different conclusions regarding the interpretation and implications of the relevant scientific data. After two years of extended deliberation and prayer, the PRC has not been able to reach a consensus as to the likelihood, or even the possibility, that these medications might contribute to the loss of human life after fertilization. The majority of the experts to which Dr. Dobson has spoken feel that the pill does not have an abortifacient effect. A minority of the experts feel that when conception occurs on the pill, there is enough of a possibility for an abortifacient effect, however remote, to warrant warning women about it.72

Therefore, whether to use birth control pills is a very complicated issue about which faithful prolife Christians and doctors disagree. As a result, it seems legalistic and inappropriate to declare that use of the pill is sinful. Conversely, it seems that Christian couples need to be informed of the potential abortive nature of birth control pills so that they can study the matter further and prayerfully come to an informed decision according to their own conscience and the leading of God the Holy Spirit.

As a pastor who is, admittedly, not medically trained, I do not encourage members of our church to use the pill but also would not discipline a member for sin if they did.

Level 5: Abortive Murder

Abortion is taking a human life by killing a fertilized egg. Biblically, it is also known as the sin of murder. Abortions include medical procedures of various kinds as well as RU-486 and the morning-after pill. Other items that cause abortion are the intrauterine device (IUD) and Norplant, which do not prevent conception but prevent implantation of an already fertilized ovum. The result is an abortion, the killing of a conceived person.74

Thomas W. Hilgers of the Mayo Graduate School of Medicine in Rochester, Minnesota, studied over four hundred articles on the subject and concluded, “The primary action of the IUD must be classed as abortifacient.”75 Tragically, some 2.5 to 3 million American women use IUDs.76

It may seem odd that I, as a pastor writing primarily for Christian readers, include this level as a form of birth control. Yet, tragically, many people, including Christians, use abortion as a form of birth control. Undoubtedly, there are very rare cases in which even the most devoutly Bible-believing, pro-life Christians are caught on the horns of an ethical dilemma involving abortion (e.g., when the mother’s life is at stake), but for the purposes of this chapter I am speaking of abortion in its majority sense as a murderous form of birth control.

SUMMARY

In summary, as a pastor I would support Christian couples practicing levels 1 to 3 of birth control, urge those considering level 4 to prayerfully and carefully reflect on their decision, and oppose any Christian couple considering level 5, unless there are extremely weighty extenuating circumstances.

Footnotes:

  • 49: Cutrer and Glahn, The Contraception Guidebook, 72.
  • 59. Ibid., 77.
  • 60. Davis, Evangelical Ethics, 35.
  • 61. Cutrer and Glahn, The Contraception Guidebook, 82–83.
  • 62. Davis, Evangelical Ethics, 35.
  • 65. Ibid., 30.
  • 66. Ibid.
  • 68. L. S. Potter, “How Effective Are Contraceptives? The Determination and Measurement of Pregnancy Rates,” Obstetrics and Gynecology 88 (September 1996): 135–235, in “Oral Contraceptives—An Update” Population Reports (Spring 2000), http://findarticles.com/p/articles/ mi_m0856/is_1_28/ai_62723391/print?tag=artBody;col1.
  • 69. One of his great works on the subject is his book Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions? You can download the entire book or read condensations of the book for free here: http:// www.epm.org/books/does_the_birth_control_ pill_cause_abortionsDetail.php. In addition, articles on abortion, birth control, and related issues can be found here: http://www. epm.org/resources-prolife_abortion.html.
  • 72. Focus on the Family, “Position Statement: Birth Control Pills and Other Hormonal Contraception,” December 30, 2005, http://www.family.org/sharedassets/correspondence/pdfs/ miscellaneous/Position_Statement-Birth_Control_Pills_and_Other_Hormonal_Contra- ception.pdf.
  • 73. “Possible Post-Fertilization Effects of Hormonal Birth Control,” Hormonal Birth Control, http://www.cmda.org/AM/Template.cfm?Section=Search&template=/CM/HTMLDisplay. cfm&ContentI D=3045.
  • 74. Randy Alcorn, Prolife Answers to ProChoice Arguments (Multnomah: Sisters, OR: 1994), 118.
  • 75. Thomas W. Hilgers, “The Intrauterine Device: Contraceptive or Abortifacient?” Minnesota Medicine (June 1974): 493–501.
  • 76. Davis, Evangelical Ethics, 32.

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February 11, 2012 | Posted in: Abortion,Children,Ethics,Marriage | Author: Crossway Staff @ 8:00 am | 0 Comments »

The Ethics of Birth Control (Part 3): A Reponse to Anti-Birth Control Arguments

Content adapted from Religion Saves: And Nine Other Misconceptions by Mark Driscoll.

There’s no doubt the Bible says children are a blessing, but the Bible doesn’t seem to address the specific topic of birth control. Is this a black-and-white topic, or does it fall under liberties? Mark Driscoll provides some thoughtful responses to common anti-birth control arguments.

Does God command people to have children?

It is argued that God commands his people to have children, yet in Genesis 1:28 we read, “God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth.’” Children are a blessing, not a command. Were we commanded to have children, then those who never marry, like Jesus, and those who are barren would be in sin for not obeying God’s command. To turn a blessing into a command is a common error of legalism, which twists something we get to do in delight into something we have to do in duty. Christian married couples typically should desire and pursue children, either on their own or through adoption or fostering, and celebrate if or when God blesses them with children. Yet to state that any couple that is not continually doing all it can to have children is sinning is to misrepresent what God communicated to our first parents.

If children are a blessing, does that mean Christian couples should try to have as many as possible?

It is argued that because children are a blessed gift from the Lord, Christian couples should seek to have as many as possible. The staff at John Piper’s Desiring God ministry has issued an insightful refutation to this point:

It is very important to delight in the reality that “children are a gift of the Lord.” But some people go further and argue from this that since children are gifts from God, it is wrong to take steps to regulate the timing and number of children one has.

In response, it can be pointed out that the Scriptures also say that a wife is a gift from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22), but that doesn’t mean that it is wrong to stay single (1 Corinthians 7:8). Just because something is a gift from the Lord does not mean that it is wrong to be a steward of when or whether you will come into possession of it. It is wrong to rea- son that since A is good and a gift from the Lord, then we must pursue as much of A as possible. God has made this a world in which trade-offs have to be made and we cannot do everything to the fullest extent. For kingdom purposes, it might be wise not to get married. And for kingdom purposes, it might be wise to regulate the size of one’s family and to regulate when the new additions to the family will likely arrive. As Wayne Grudem has said, “it is okay to place less emphasis on some good activities in order to focus on other good activities.” . . .

In reality, then, although it is true that “blessed is the man whose quiver is full of [children],” we need to realize that God has not given everyone the same size quiver. And so birth control is a gift from God that may be used for the wise regulation of the size of one’s family, as well as a means of seeking to have children at the time which seems to be wisest.30

The Genesis 38:10 Argument:

It is also argued by some Protestants and many Catholic theologians that birth control is forbidden based upon Genesis 38:10. Both Abraham and Isaac dreaded the thought of their sons intermarrying with Canaanite women because it would cause them to wander from God (Gen. 24:3; 28:1). Nevertheless, Judah did just that and had three sons named Er, Onan, and Shelah. Er then married a woman named Tamar and, without fanfare or details, we are told that Er was a wicked man whom God killed. It was customary in that time for a widow to marry her husband’s brother, who would care for her, protect her, and give her sons to ensure she had a stake in the family’s inheritance and to look after her in her old age (Deut. 25:5-6). The duty to care for Tamar fell on the next son, Onan. Onan was happy to have sex with Tamar but refused to meet his obligation of impregnating and caring for her. So, he practiced coitus interruptus, pulling out of Tamar at the moment of ejaculation, in an effort to not impregnate her, like so many teenagers do in our own day.31

Nonetheless, Onan’s sin was disobeying God and dishonoring Tamar by having sex without wanting to be obligated in any way or care for her, or, as Genesis 38:8 says, to “perform the duty of a brother- in-law.” In short, Onan got whacked for treating Tamar like a booty call and not a bride.

Response to the Anti-Birth-Control Arguments:

While God has not changed, the world has, and his people need wisdom, not legalism, to live in it. It is true that some people sinfully postpone children for reasons motivated by greed and selfishness. It is conversely true that some idealists have children prematurely, before they are truly able to care for them. In summary, using no birth control of any kind beyond prayer is acceptable for Christian couples. However, it is sinful when it is imposed upon or demanded of all Christian couples.

Footnotes:

  • 30. “Does the Bible Permit Birth Control?” Desiring God Resource Library, January 23, 2006, http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/Articles/ByDate/2006/1440_Does_the_ Bible_permit_birth_control/.
  • 31. Pulling out is not an effective form of birth control for at least two reasons. (1) The timing is difficult since the average male ejaculation occurs at 28 miles per hour (Cutrer and Glahn, The Contraception Guidebook, 73). (2) There are roughly 250 to 500 million sperm in one male ejaculation, many are present in the seepage before the ejaculation, and it only takes one good swimmer to make a baby (Douglas E. Rosenau, A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God’s Gift of Married Sexual Pleasure [Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 1994], 62).

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The Ethics of Birth Control (Part 2): 16 Truths to Help Establish a Biblical Perspective

Yesterday we kicked off a four-part series on the ethics of birth control with some observations from John Feinberg. Today we’ll continue the conversation with insights from Mark Driscoll, looking at 16 biblical truths that impact how we should view this issue:

The Bible says children are a blessing, but the Bible doesn’t seem to address the specific topic of birth control. Is this a black-and-white topic, or does it fall under liberties?

Nowhere in the Bible do we find terms such as contraception, birth control, or family planning. Still, the Bible does speak to those issues in principle. Therefore, to best answer these and other questions, we have to begin with a Christian worldview and then explore how the Bible principally establishes ethical guidelines by which contemporary birth control questions can be answered. The biblical worldview necessary for answering this question is comprised of sixteen truths.

  • Truth 1: God is the Creator and author of human life. (Genesis 1–2; Deut. 32:39; Ps. 139:13–16)
  • Truth 2: God made humanity in his image and likeness, which means that human life is unique and sacred. (Gen. 1:27; James 3:9)
  • Truth 3: God intends for human beings to fill the earth. (Gen. 1:28; 9:1)
  • Truth 4: God authored that life begins at conception and declares that an unborn baby is a sacred life. (Ex. 1:16–17; 21:22–25; Lev. 18:21; Jer. 7:31–32; Ezek. 16:20–21; Mic. 6:7; Matt. 2:16–18; Acts 7:19)
  • Truth 5: God knows us from our mother’s womb. (Jer. 1:5; Job 10:9–12; 31:15; Ps. 119:73; Eccl. 11:5)
  • Truth 6: God declares that when human life is taken without just cause (e.g., capital punishment, just war, self-defense), the sin of murder has been committed. (Gen. 9:5; Ex. 20:13)
  • Truth 7: God made humanity to exercise dominion by ruling over creation. (Gen. 1:26)
  • Truth 8: God made humanity to steward creation by exercising wise discernment based upon natural revelation, conscience, the Holy Spirit, counsel, and most authoritatively, Scripture. (1 Pet. 4:10)
  • Truth 9: God made humanity male and female. (Gen. 1:27, 31)
  • Truth 10: God created marriage as a covenant for one man and one woman. (Gen. 2:24–25, cf. Matt. 19:5, Mark 10:7–8, Eph. 5:31; Prov. 2:16; Mal. 2:14)
  • Truth 11: God created sex as a gift only for a married couple. (Gen. 2:24–25)
  • Truth 12: God is sovereign over the womb and can ultimately open and close it as he wills. (Gen. 20:18; 29:31; 30:22; 1 Sam. 1:5–6; Isa. 66:9; Luke 1:24–25)
  • Truth 13: Children are a blessing from God to be provided and cared for by parents and extended family and church, including those who are adopted as Jesus was. (Gen. 1:28a; Ps. 127:3–5; 128:3–4; Matt. 18:5–6; Mark 9:36–37, 10:16; 1 Tim. 5:8)
  • Truth 14: God desires Christians to raise godly offspring. (Mal. 2:15; Jer. 29:4–9)
  • Truth 15: God commands his people to lovingly help care for widows and orphans. (James 1:27)
  • Truth 16: God expects single non-parents to help parents raise children, as Jesus’ own life as a single man exemplifies. (Matt. 19:13–14; Mark 10:13–16)

With this Christian worldview in place, we are ready to examine the various options for a Christian couple considering birth control. Join us tomorrow for part 3.

Adapted from Religion Saves: And Nine Other Misconceptions

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February 9, 2012 | Posted in: Children,Ethics,Marriage | Author: Lindsay Tully @ 8:00 am | 1 Comment »

The Ethics of Birth Control (Part 1): 4 Concerns that Increase Birth Control Use

Adapted from Ethics for a Brave New World, Second Edition, by John S. Feinberg and Paul D. Feinberg

The twentieth century saw major changes in humankind’s understanding sexuality—the sexual revolution, the rise of varying understandings of sexual orientation, and of morally permissible sexual activity. The methods of conceiving and gestating a baby have also dramatically expanded. During the last half of the twentieth century there has been a steady increase in the use of birth control devices—for Christians and non-Christians alike. Despite a long tradition of hesitation in regard to birth control, both pragmatic and biblical considerations have led many Christians to conclude that birth control is morally acceptable.

Before jumping into the ethics of birth control, it’s helpful to understand the pragmatic framework for the rise in the usage of birth control in our culture. From a pragmatic standpoint, advocates of birth control tend to emphasize four main issues:

1. Population growth and the apparent depletion of natural resources

Some use this as warrant for population control, but not everyone agrees. Historically, the three main checks to population growth have been war, hunger, and disease. Wars and starvation still abound, and yet population growth continues. The reason is undoubtedly due in part to medicine’s growing ability to control disease and prolong life.

2. A change in socially acceptable sexual behavior

Part of the shift in sexual mores involves a change in attitudes toward premarital sex. Because attitudes toward premarital sex are so positive, there has been much concern about a rise in teenage pregnancies. Through educational programs about sex, dispensing of condoms or other birth control devices, and through programs stressing abstinence, in recent years there has been a decline in teenage pregnancies. So an increasingly positive attitude toward premarital sex with a desire to avoid becoming unwed mothers and fathers has greatly accelerated the acceptance and use of various birth control devices.

3. Women have careers outside the home

Women have found great fulfillment in careers outside the home. Many of these women are very competent at what they do and understand that, if they are to make a mark, they must give themselves wholly to their career. Many of these women still want to have children and raise a family. The obvious question is how a woman can have a successful career and at the same time have children. For many women, the answer is to put off childbearing until later in life when these women have already achieved many of their career goals. Given increasing life expectancy for both men and women, there is much less hesitancy to wait until one’s late thirties or early forties, to start a family.

4. Family finances and individual careers

Many married couples wonder if it is morally right to potentially deprive existing children financially just to increase the size of their family. Moreover, given the need in many societies for both husband and wife to work, it becomes impractical to have a large family. In some homes, if there aren’t financial resources to pay for day care for the children, and if, for example, the wife has a significant management position at her company, a decision to forego children and pursue the wife’s career goals is the expected response.

While pragmatic concerns are important, they cannot be determinative for the Christian. This is part one of a four-part series on the ethics of birth control for the Christian. Be sure to stop by through the week for more info.

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February 8, 2012 | Posted in: Children,Ethics,Marriage | Author: Crossway Staff @ 8:41 am | 1 Comment »

See What Homeschool Reviewers are Saying about “The Barber Who Wanted to Pray”

Here’s what reviewers are saying about The Barber Who Wanted to Pray:

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The Barber Who Wanted to Pray is a beautifully illustrated story which teaches children (and adults) how to pray using models such as the Lord’s Prayer, the Ten Commandments, and the Apostle’s Creed.  The book contains the full text of the Ten Commandments, the Lord’s Prayer, and the Apostle’s Creed after the story concludes, so readers can implement the ideas that they are given in the story. – Marine Corps Nomads

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