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A Discipleship Compass

In the book of  Titus, we see a close link between deed (actions or good works) and word (speech and teaching): “Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us” (Titus 2:7–8; see also 1:6; 2:14; 3:1, 8, 14).

Bill Clem drew up a compass to help explain these aspects of discipleship.

  1. Grace + Word = Knowing: The relational dynamic of shepherd and sheep communicating suggests sheep that are known and a shepherd that is being known and followed (John 10:3–4). You as a disciple must be willing to both disclose and communicate. Disclosing your sticking points or hurdles to following Jesus and communicating your picture of what life looks like pursuing Jesus will involve your relationships, affections, and thoughts. The role of a shepherd in knowing you and in developing a loving transformational relationship with you includes spending time with you and asking questions, not just as a fact-finding mission but for the purpose of opening up communication and trust. While communication is being established and deepened, the shepherd must discipline himself or herself to be a good listener. There will be a time to inform, clarify, or correct, but in getting to know the disciple, the shepherd has a primary responsibility to listen for attitudes of the heart. If a disciple feels that he is just one more disciple, dismissed or “clichéd,” chances are that the shepherding is springing more from a template than from a relationship.
  2. Truth + Word = Feeding: In this quadrant the dynamics include learning and feeding. As a disciple you must have a life rhythm of learning. As a learner you are committing to a trajectory of drawing closer to all three persons of the Trinity, living a life that images the God who creates, redeems, and matures you. The role of shepherd as a feeder is to teach the disciple how to observe (live out) the commands of Christ. This means time in the Word together along with discussions about applications and implications to life. A good shepherd at this point knows how to assign learning projects to the disciple, which can range from a focused study, to disciplines like journaling, to a day of solitude and prayer, to challenging the disciple to frame “what a win looks like” in a reconciled relationship. The bottom line is that most of what it looks like to follow Jesus is caught rather than taught. If you are discipling someone or preparing to, you should schedule a half day of solitude and ask God to help you recall all that you have had to learn to follow Jesus.
  3. Grace + Deed = Leading: As a disciple, your challenge is to integrate being with doing. For this to happen, it becomes even more critical that you have a picture of what your life looks like when you’re following Jesus. Whether you call this a vision, a mission, or a purpose statement is not the point; having a compelling picture that calls you to action is. This means taking the aspects of discipleship and personalizing them as your own. When done well, shepherding will call people upward in their pursuit of Jesus. Disciples will seek God for the direction to set faith goals for their lives, as well as for divine empowerment to follow Jesus. Grace without action can degenerate into enablement or encouraging disciples merely to “do their best” or to “keep trying.” Shepherding is all about exposing grace as God’s delivery system for life change.
  4. Truth + Deed = Protection: As a disciple there are certain elements you should establish in your game plan. The first is repentance. No disciple shoots 100 percent. A second element or strategy to your game plan is how to deal with temptation. As disciples, we must develop discernment to realize when we are being influenced by our flesh and to flee, and a discernment to realize when we are being influenced by the Enemy and resist so that he will flee. Having someone else speak into what this looks like is exactly what it means to enlist the protective role of a shepherd-coach.

Modified from Disciple by Bill Clem.

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November 17, 2011 | Posted in: Church Membership,Fellowship & Hospitality,Spiritual Growth | Author: Angie Cheatham @ 8:00 am | 0 Comments »

Gospel Community: Imaging God to One Another

In Disciple: Getting Your Identity from Jesus, author Bill Clem explains that Christian communities serve as witnesses to show what the kingdom of God is supposed to look like. They model grace, love, forgiveness, truth, and identity. They demonstrate…

  • Love: “People will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35).
  • Peace: “Be at peace among yourselves” (1 Thess. 5:13).
  • Hospitality: “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling” (1 Pet. 4:9).
  • Service: “For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another” (Gal. 5:13).
  • Instruction: “I myself am satisfied about you, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge and able to instruct one another” (Rom. 15:14).
  • Care: “That there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another” (1 Cor. 12:25).
  • Forgiveness: “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Col. 3:13).
  • Kindness: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Eph. 4:32).
  • Submission: “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Eph. 5:21).
  • Honesty: “Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices” (Col. 3:9).

This gives you the idea that gospel community is nothing short of imaging God one to another. This means mirroring to others the transformation that Jesus is doing in each of us individually. This means championing Jesus and the Holy Spirit. This means being a community that calls for sin to be dealt with rather than excused.

Modified from Disciple by Bill Clem. Learn more or read a sample chapter.

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November 16, 2011 | Posted in: Church Membership,Fellowship & Hospitality,Identity in Christ,Loving Others | Author: Angie Cheatham @ 9:26 am | 0 Comments »

Building the Foundation of Community

It is essential to lay a foundation for building a life-giving and life-sustaining community within your church. Illustrating the need for a solid foundation, Jesus said,

Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it. (Matt 7:24-27)

Jesus calls us to dig deep into his Word and lay a solid foundation of faithfulness. We are called to hear his words, be changed by them, and to live out of the convictions brought by the Holy Spirit. He is telling us to build our lives on the foundation of faith and obedience in him, through the living Word of Scripture.

What an excellent foundation! Yet there are so many who build their foundations on sand rather than rock. When it comes to ministry, and community group ministries in particular, I see sloppy foundations. We can get so excited about a new innovative idea or opportunity to contextualize that we often skip this important step: build your foundation on the rock. Wind, rain, and floods will come in the form of sin, suffering, and tragedy. The question is, will your community have the conviction to be the church when the flood comes, when Jake confesses to an addiction to porn, when Jane loses hope, when Tom loses his job?

Have you asked yourself why you do community groups?

It seems silly, but how many of us have never even asked why we have community groups at our churches? Having small groups at your church because of tradition or because that is what “successful” churches do is not a particularly sturdy foundation. It is like having no foundation at all and makes it fairly difficult to inspire a commitment to community.

So, before you begin building (or remodeling), let me encourage you with this: be like the wise man. Ask why before you ask how. Build your foundation before you pick out the drapes. We are so often in a hurry to fix the lack of authentic community within the church that we start building without a foundation. Jesus tells us not to be fools who put all our effort into building a house, picking out just the right hardwoods to accent the light in the family room, when it will all be washed away in the first storm. We want to build our community groups so that they will stand up to the many storms that will come blowing through.

Modified from Community: Taking Your Small Group off Life Support by Brad House

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October 11, 2011 | Posted in: Fellowship & Hospitality | Author: Crossway Staff @ 8:26 am | (2) Comments »

Video: We Weren’t Created for Isolation

Do you feel isolated and disconnected from others? From God? Brad House, author of the new book Community: Taking Your Small Group off Life Support explains:

We weren’t built for isolation, we were created for community. And community isn’t ultimately about us, it’s about God. The church should be the most compelling expression of community in our culture. It should stand in contrast to the counterfeit community that costs us nothing. But unfortunately in most of our churches, we’re more well known for awkward circles than we are for transformational community . . .

Community, the latest book in the Re:Lit series, will be available later this month.

Here’s a corresponding video that highlights the problems this book is addressing:

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September 6, 2011 | Posted in: Church and Ministry,Fellowship & Hospitality,Social Issues | Author: Angie Cheatham @ 8:26 am | (3) Comments »

Interview with Tim Chester: Eating with a Mission

How we eat and who we eat with can communicate quite a bit about what we believe. Something as simple as eating not only creates natural opportunities to be intentional, loving, and missional—but meals can also be a reflection of our theology.

Tim Chester’s newest book, A Meal with Jesus considers how Jesus used meals not only for physical nourishment, but to enact grace. How can we learn from and emulate that part of his ministry? Check out our recent interview with Tim Chester:

  1. What does food have to do with grace, church, and mission?
    Everything! Just think about how often food figures in the Bible story or how much of church life involves meals. I don’t think this is incidental. Food expresses our dependence on God and on other people. Meals embody friendship and welcome. So food is a powerful way of doing mission and community. The Son of Man, Jesus says in Luke 7, came eating and drinking – this was the way Jesus did mission.
  2. What do you mean when you say the way Jesus did meals was “radically subversive?”
    Meals in Jesus’ day were highly stratified. Roman meals expressed the social order Jewish meals were similar (think of the jockeying for position in Luke 14) with the added twist that Levitical food laws made it all but impossible for Jews to eat with Gentiles. So meals expressed who were the insiders and who were the outsiders. Jesus turns all of this upside down or, perhaps I should say, inside out! Outsiders become insiders around the table with Jesus.
  3. How do the meals of Jesus image the gospel?
    Let’s take one example. Jesus ate with tax collectors. Tax collectors were collaborators with the Romans, the people who were occupying God’s promised land. This meant they were not only betraying the nation, but they were enemies of God. God sits and eats with his enemies. That’s what happening in the meals of Jesus. It’s an amazing expression of gospel grace. You would not believe it if it were not in the Scriptures. The Pharisees certainly could not believe it. And that is without considering how the feeding of the 5,000 points to the messianic banquet of the future or how the last supper points to the cross.
  4. How would you practically encourage readers to begin associating with the marginalized?
    No doubt there are lots of ways to begin, but in the book I highlight the importance of eating with people. There is a danger that if we only ‘do’ things ‘for’ people then we communicate by our actions ‘I am able and you are unable’. Then the message we convey is not the welcome of God, but the message ‘become like me’. We may talk of grace with our words, but our actions communicate the need for social or moral improvement. But when we sit and eat with one another then we are together round the table. Then we can speak of grace as fellow sinners.
  5. You say that our meals actually express our doctrine of justification. Can you explain that?
    Paul’s great exposition of the doctrine of justification in the letter to the Galatians is sparked by a meal, by Peter’s refusal to eat with Gentiles. This is where a false doctrine of justification led: to broken table fellowship. Why? Because meals are such a central and powerful expression of community (and the withdrawal of community). It was the same with the meals of the Pharisees. Their sense of how we are made right with God was reflected in their meals; their meals expressed who were insiders and outsiders on the basis of moral and religious respectability. The ladder of self-righteousness was represented in the positions of honour around the table. But Jesus freely eats with tax collectors and sinners. He expresses God’s grace through his willingness to eat with everyone – even self-righteous Pharisees! I’m not saying justification is merely about who we eat with. It is about how we are made right with God through faith in the finished work of Christ. But this will then be reflected who we associate with and on what basis. Our meals will mirror our doctrine.
  6. How do your “missional communities” work?
    That’s a big question! Our meetings always involve a meal. Plus we encourage people to share lives throughout the week as well as involving unbelievers in that shared life – and that often involves sharing food. But meals don’t make community. They embody or express it . . . and I can’t imagine doing community without meals. But it’s the gospel that creates community. This is what makes communities “work”. So in fact we called our missional communities “gospel communities”. (But then you can’t talk about the gospel story for long without bumping into a meal!)
  7. Do you have practical steps readers can take to encourage them to grow in initiating missional meals?
    The great thing about using meals to do community and mission is that it doesn’t add anything to your busy schedule. We already have 21 ready-made opportunities each week. Nor do you have some kind to special missiological training. You just need to love Jesus, love people and enjoy eating! It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Sometimes you may want to make a special effort and celebrate the goodness of creation in a fancy meal. But most of the time it is just a question of sharing an ordinary meal with people. Invite members of your Christian community for your evening meal. Meet up for breakfast with someone on the way yo work. Use lunch in the canteen to get to know your colleagues. If you’re single then entertaining families might be difficult, but invite them for dessert or cake. Try to invite unbelievers together with believers so your unbelieving friends are introduced to the Christian community and get to see how Christians relate.
  8. How can meals express a vision of the kingdom of God?
    Once you start looking for it, it’s amazing how often food is used to express both judgment and salvation. A meal in the presence of God is the goal of salvation. The first thing God does for Adam and Eve in the garden is given them a menu, the fruit of every tree (except one). The climax of the exodus (an act of salvation commemorated in a meal) is when the elders of Israel eat with God on the mountain in Exodus 24. Isaiah promises a messianic banquet of rich foods that will never end in Isaiah 25 and Jesus anticipates this perpetual meal with God in the feeding of the 5,000, a meal with more food at the end than at the beginning. The last supper looks forward to the time when Jesus will eat with his disciples in the kingdom of God. And the Bible story ends with a meal as we celebrate the wedding supper of the Lamb in Revelation 19. Every time we eat together as Christians we are anticipating this hope.

Tim Chester is co-director of The Porterbrook Network, which equips individuals and churches to rediscover mission, and director of The Porterbrook Institute, which provides integrated theological and missional training for church leaders. He is co-leader of the Crowded House, a group of church-planting networks. Chester has also authored You Can Change and co-authored Total Church (Re:Lit). Learn more about A Meal with Jesus: Discovering Grace, Community, and Mission Around the Table.

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May 3, 2011 | Posted in: Evangelism,Fellowship & Hospitality,Interviews,Loving Others,Missions | Author: Angie Cheatham @ 11:44 am | (2) Comments »