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The Gospel and Hate

Excerpt from Bloodlines: Race, Cross, and the Christian by John Piper

The horrors of racial and ethnic hatred are indescribable.

All over the world, through all of history, the slaughter of human life because of ethnic, tribal, and racial animosities is beyond imagination. If you could imagine it—in vivid color—you would not be able to bear it. From the Armenian genocide in Turkey in 1915, to the holocaust in Germany, to the Soviet Gulag, to the massacres in Rwanda in 1994, to the Japanese slaughter of six million Chinese, Indonesians, Koreans, Filipinos, and Indochinese—the litany of ethnic hatred goes on.

The gospel of Jesus cuts the nerve of hatred and anger and the bent to be a blaming person. It does so in many ways. I’ll mention two that seem almost opposite but are both crucial in the quest for racial justice and harmony.

When we receive the gracious provision of God to forgive our sins through Christ, our bent to be unforgiving is broken.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children” (Eph. 4:32–5:1). Our kindness and forgiveness of others is empowered by our being forgiven. Our loving others is empowered by our being loved by God.

We know we are sinners. We know that the offense we have given to God is greater than any offense others have given to us, and if God was gracious to us, we must be gracious to others. You cannot authentically rejoice in being treated better than you deserve while treating others the way they deserve, or worse.

The gospel cuts the nerve of hatred by making us feel the broken-hearted gratitude that God’s wrath was once on us and was removed, not because we deserved it but because of his absolutely free grace. Freely you have received; freely give. As the Father has sent me to love, Jesus said, so I send you. Love your enemies so that you may prove yourselves to be children of God, because that is the way he treated you. If you cherish grudges, you do not cherish God’s grace. But the definition of a Christian is one who receives and cherishes the grace of God in Christ.

The gospel overcomes vengeance by promising that justice will be done.

One of the emotional boosters behind our judicial sense is that justice must be done, especially when our rights are denied. And when it looks like justice will not be done to us, we feel the need to take matters into our hands and exact vengeance.

To this impulse, the gospel comes with a double message. All wrongs in the world will be punished justly, either on the cross (for the wrongdoers who trust Christ) or in hell (for the wrongdoers who don’t). “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’ To the contrary, ‘if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head’” (Rom. 12:19–20).

What God is telling us is that forgiveness and love do not mean the perpetrators get away with their abuses and injustices. They don’t. If they come to faith in Christ, their sins will be covered by his blood. But if they do not come to Christ, their sins will come on their own head, and God will see that justice is done. In this way, a life of love and forgiveness—a life of treating bad people better than they deserve—is not a foolish life. God’s mercy and vengeance frees us from the soul-destroying bitterness of hatred and anger and blaming and vengeance. It makes us merciful without making us naïve about evil.

This effect of the gospel of Christ would transform the world of race and ethnicity more than we can imagine. Who can begin to describe the possibilities of reconciliation and harmony where the work of Christ replaces hatred with love, anger with patience, and blaming with forgiving, and all of this without surrendering a passion that justice must be done?

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February 21, 2012 | Posted in: Forgiveness,Loving Others,Race | Author: Lindsay Tully @ 8:00 am | 0 Comments »

Video: We Can’t Afford to be Colorblind

John Piper, author of Bloodlines, shares his thoughts on unity within God-given diversity and how the gospel profoundly affects race relations in this video interview with Collin Hansen. Thanks to The Gospel Coalition for this video and the time markers:

  • 0:02 – What is at stake in our pursuit of racial harmony?
  • 3:31 – Why do some think the ideal is color blindness?
  • 6:30 – Every person has stereotypes

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January 16, 2012 | Posted in: Loving Others,Race,Video | Author: Lindsay Tully @ 10:16 am | 0 Comments »

5 Love Languages of Leviticus

Leviticus 19:9-18 commands that we love our neighbor as ourself. What does it mean to love your neighbor as yourself?

In What is the Mission of the Church?, Kevin DeYoung and Greg Gilbert explain what they call the five love languages of Leviticus:

This passage applies love to five different areas of life, marked off into five sections by the concluding phrase “I am the Lord” (vv. 9–10, 11–12, 13–14, 15–16, 17–18). You might think of these verses as giving five love languages that every Christian must speak. We must love with our possessions, by our words, in our actions, by our judgments, and with our attitudes.

  1. Loving Others with Our Possessions (vv. 9–10): The main lesson to be learned is that God’s people are to be generous. The principle for us is this: We must deliberately plan our financial lives so that we have extra left over to give to those in need.
  2. Loving Others with Our Words (vv. 11–12): God’s people love others by telling the truth in their transactions. No cheating scales, weights, or measurements (vv. 35–36).
  3. Loving Others by Our Actions (vv. 13–14): God’s people must not take advantage of the weak.
  4. Loving Others in Our Judgments (vv. 15–16): Justice means there should be one standard, one law, for anyone and everyone, not different rules for different kinds of people.
  5. Loving Others in Our Attitude (vv. 17–18): Love is concrete, but it is also affective. “You shall not hate your brother in your heart.” It’s not enough to be polite on the outside and full of rage on the inside. If we are angry with our brother we should “reason frankly” with him and try to work things out. The bottom line is that you are to love as you would want to be loved.

So in the end this great commandment to love your neighbor as yourself—this commandment quoted in the New Testament more than any other—boils down to five very elementary, everyday, ordinary commands: share, tell the truth, don’t take advantage of the weak, be fair, talk it out. Simpler than you might think. But still easier said than done.

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November 25, 2011 | Posted in: Justice,Loving Others | Author: Angie Cheatham @ 8:06 am | 1 Comment »

Gospel Community: Imaging God to One Another

In Disciple: Getting Your Identity from Jesus, author Bill Clem explains that Christian communities serve as witnesses to show what the kingdom of God is supposed to look like. They model grace, love, forgiveness, truth, and identity. They demonstrate…

  • Love: “People will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35).
  • Peace: “Be at peace among yourselves” (1 Thess. 5:13).
  • Hospitality: “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling” (1 Pet. 4:9).
  • Service: “For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another” (Gal. 5:13).
  • Instruction: “I myself am satisfied about you, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge and able to instruct one another” (Rom. 15:14).
  • Care: “That there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another” (1 Cor. 12:25).
  • Forgiveness: “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Col. 3:13).
  • Kindness: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Eph. 4:32).
  • Submission: “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Eph. 5:21).
  • Honesty: “Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices” (Col. 3:9).

This gives you the idea that gospel community is nothing short of imaging God one to another. This means mirroring to others the transformation that Jesus is doing in each of us individually. This means championing Jesus and the Holy Spirit. This means being a community that calls for sin to be dealt with rather than excused.

Modified from Disciple by Bill Clem. Learn more or read a sample chapter.

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November 16, 2011 | Posted in: Church Membership,Fellowship & Hospitality,Identity in Christ,Loving Others | Author: Angie Cheatham @ 9:26 am | 0 Comments »

Caring for a Loved One with Cancer: Be Prepared to Help for the Long Haul

It is not unusual for visits, calls, and offers of help for those battling cancer to taper off after a couple weeks. When someone calls and a cheery voice answers, the assumption can be made that all is well and help is no longer needed. However, this is sometimes far from the truth.

Even when spirits are high and recovery is going well, it doesn’t mean that needs are no longer present, especially when a loved one is undergoing chemo or radiation treatments and energy is low. The side effects of these treatments can render anyone incapable of performing simple tasks that are suddenly too strenuous to accomplish.

Be committed to being available for the long haul and to continue helping throughout the length of the cancer treatments. Such perseverance and faithfulness will be forever remembered and deeply appreciated.

“[Love] . . . always hopes, always perseveres.” - 1 Corinthians 13:7

Adapted from Caring for a Loved One with Cancer by June Hunt

As we recognize breast cancer awareness month, we’ve shared several helpful thoughts from June Hunt’s new book Caring for a Loved One with Cancer. Read a sample chapter, buy the book, or check out our related posts:

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October 25, 2011 | Posted in: Disease & Sickness,Loving Others | Author: Lindsay Tully @ 8:00 am | 0 Comments »