Parenting with Words of Grace: Building Relationships with Your Children One Conversation at a Time

By William P. Smith, Foreword by Paul David Tripp

Parenting with Words of Grace

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Parenting with Words of Grace: Building Relationships with Your Children One Conversation at a Time

By William P. Smith, Foreword by Paul David Tripp

Many parents think too little of the words they use with their children. They see words as a means to an end, ignoring the relational dimension. Exploring how words are a means by which children grow to trust their parents, this book offers practical wisdom in the form of short chapters with real-world examples to guide parents into meaningful conversations with their children—reflecting God's own words to Christians as his children. Through consistent encouragement, loving correction, and careful confrontation, parents can use everyday moments to speak to their children in ways that represent God’s heart.


William P. Smith (PhD, Rutgers University; MDiv, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a pastor, author, and retreat speaker who has served several churches, been a faculty member of the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, and taught practical theology at Westminster Theological Seminary. He is the author of Loving Well (Even If You Haven't Been) and numerous other books and booklets.


“This book immediately affected the way I had conversations with my grandchildren about some teachable moments in their lives. Smith brings together Scripture and illustrations in a way that makes you want to do better in those conversations, and helps you know how to do it.”
Ed Welch, Faculty and Counselor, Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation

“If you’re like me, you might have read the title of this book, Parenting with Words of Grace, and felt the need to stifle a moan. Oh, no . . . here comes the guilt! Please don’t make that assumption. Like its title, this book is filled with words of grace: grace to you as a parent and grace to you as a child of the only Father who knows what it is to always speak with words of grace. It’s full of deeply satisfying encouragement for your soul and is written in a winsome and honest way. You’ll be glad you read it. You really will.”
Elyse Fitzpatrick, author, Give Them Grace

“A rich resource loaded with scriptural insight. Bible lovers will relish Smith’s use and application of Scripture. Parents will be comforted that they are not alone in some of their struggles and given helpful instructions on how to be good parents.”
Ajith Fernando, Teaching Director, Youth for Christ, Sri Lanka; author, The Family Life of a Christian Leader and Discipling in a Multicultural World

“I am allergic to formulaic, pedantic, ‘how-to’ Christian books on parenting. Thankfully, that is not what this book is. Bill Smith recognizes that gospel-shaped parenting is more like art than mathematics; we need to depend more on the Holy Spirit than any how-to manual! Most importantly, Smith urges Christian parents to see their God-given role as authoritative, yes, but also formative as they use their words and conversations to establish a Christ-centered relationship with their children that can continue for all eternity. I commend this book to you and have already benefited from it myself.”
Jon Nielson, Senior Pastor, Spring Valley Presbyterian Church, Roselle, Illinois; coeditor, Gospel-Centered Youth Ministry

“Who doesn’t want to invite their children into a healthy, vibrant relationship? I know I do. Bill Smith gives a compelling vision for how our words and conversations shape our parenting and how, through our words, we are vehicles through which our children see God. I read this book and wanted to go talk to my kids. You will too.”
Courtney Reissig, author, Glory in the Ordinary

Table of Contents:

Foreword (Paul David Tripp)


Part 1: The Vision

1. Parenting is an Invitation

2. The Invitation is Embedded in Your Conversations

3. How Jesus Talks to Estranged Friends

4. Extended Story: Sacred Space

5. You Talk with No Guarantee

6. You Speak out of the Grace You’ve Already Heard

7. Extended Story: “Get in the Van”

8. Your Kids Need You to Talk to Them . . . a Lot

9. Extended Story: Nanny’s Funeral

Part 2: The Hope

10. Sometimes You Don’t Want to Talk

11. Genesis 20

12. Abraham: Misspeaks for God

13. God: Speaks for Abraham

14. Jesus: Speaks for You

15. You: Take Words to God

16. Practice: Prayer of Repentance for Misusing Your Mouth

17. You: Hear Words from God

18. You: Take Words to Your Kids

19. Getting Started: Truth and Love

Part 3: The Skill of Encouragement

20. When Should You Encourage?

21. Encouragement Takes Time

22. Replace the Negatives at Home and Abroad

23. Search for the Positive in Seed Form

24. Be Encouraged When You’re Tired of Encouraging

Part 4: The Skill of Honesty

25. The Goal of Honesty: Rescue

26. Think Before You Speak

27. Be a Mirror that Invites Participation

28. Lead with Your Worst Foot Forward

30. Build Bridges with Your Failures

31. Expect Your Kids to Make Mistakes

32. Extended Story: Catching a Line-Drive . . . or Not

33. Why You Really Do Want a Forgiving Lifestyle

Afterword: You’re a Megaphone


Category: Marriage & Family
Format: Paperback
Page Count: 224
ISBN-10: 1-4335-6097-6
ISBN-13: 978-1-4335-6097-2
Size: 5.5 in x 8.5 in
Weight: 8.0 ounces
Published: February 28, 2019