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Love the Ones Who Drive You Crazy: Eight Truths for Pursuing Unity in Your Church

By Jamie Dunlop

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Loving Those at Church Who Are Hard to Love

Churches are full of differences. In recent years, political and social issues such as convictions about public schools, the best way to combat racism, and a particular musical style have frayed the unity of many churches. Yet if a church is centered on Christ alone, then unity at church will sometimes mean building genuine friendships with those who are different. How can Christians navigate those relationships? Can they really love people at church who sometimes drive them crazy? 

This practical guide explores 8 truths from Romans 12–15 that show us how to find God-exalting unity at church with those we struggle to love. Love the Ones Who Drive You Crazy is a roadmap to finding joy in Christ through the many differences we have with fellow believers, a joy that powerfully declares the glory of God. Because easy love rarely shows off gospel power.

  • Rooted in Scripture: Examines Paul’s teaching to the churches in Rome who, like us, were struggling to find unity in Christ amidst their own differences of background, priorities, and convictions
  • Reflective: With questions to enhance discussion or reflection, this book helps readers diagnose their own struggles with others at church. Perfect for personal meditation or small-group study 
  • Widely Applicable: Addresses a great variety of conflicts within a church, not merely how to navigate specific issues 
  • Practical: Teaches readers how to love those who drive them crazy, not just why


Jamie Dunlop

Jamie Dunlop serves as an associate pastor of Capitol Hill Baptist Church. He is the coauthor (with Mark Dever) of The Compelling Community and author of Budgeting for a Healthy Church. Jamie and his wife Joan have three school-aged children and live on Capitol Hill in Washington, DC.

Product Details

Format: Paperback
Page Count: 176
Size: 5.25 in x 8.0 in
Weight: 6.475 ounces
ISBN-10: 1-4335-8992-3
ISBN-13: 978-1-4335-8992-8
ISBN-UPC: 9781433589928
Case Quantity: 64
Published: November 28, 2023

Table of Contents

Introduction: So This Is What “Christ Alone” Means?
Chapter 1: Why Did God Put Difficult People in My Church?
Chapter 2: How Can I Love “Those” People?
Chapter 3: What If I Don’t Want to Love “Them”?
Chapter 4: Wouldn’t We Be Better Off without “Them”?
Chapter 5: How Can I Be Friends with “Those” People?
Chapter 6: How Can I Really Forgive “Those” People?
Chapter 7: How Can I Stop Judging and Despising “Those” People?
Chapter 8: How Can I Love “Those” People When They’re Wrong?
Conclusion: Hope in Christ Alone
Afterword: Under the Surface of a “Christ Alone” Church