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5 Meaningful Ways to Tell Your Daughter She’s Beautiful
How to Affirm Your Daughter’s Beauty Beyond Her Looks
My three-year-old twirls before me in her satin princess dress, a sparkle in her eye. She loves what she hears from her mom: “You’re beautiful, honey!” It’s a desire God has put inside her heart because he made her for beauty. My affirmation means the world. Why? It’s a reflection of her Creator’s declaration of “very good” (Gen. 1:31).
And yet, if I’m not careful, I can subtly communicate to my little girl two things: that beauty is only skin-deep and that beauty is the only thing that matters. The world unabashedly shouts these messages already, so how can we counter them as we seek to raise our daughters in the faith? How can we tell her she’s beautiful in ways that really matter?
1. Focus on her character.
There’s nothing wrong with giving compliments. We can show kindness and love as we encourage others. But I do wonder if too often the first thing we say to other females is about how she appears on the outside: “You look so cute today.” “You’re amazing!” “You’re gonna have all the boys coming around some day.” God is clear that he is not impressed by appearance but looks into the heart (1 Sam. 16:7), for character matters more to him than countenance.
Again, there’s nothing bad about saying, “Well done!” when your child wins their soccer game; this is a reflection of our Father’s smile (Zeph. 3:17; Matt. 25:21). We don’t want to be uncompassionately silent because we’re scared about saying something “wrong.” But we can focus on character, which we hope will help our girls do the same: “You persevered this season and showed a lot of diligence. Praise God for that!” Our words glorify God through the good work he’s doing within our kids, and that happens as we prioritize the character he is forming in them.
What Makes You Beautiful
Kristen Wetherell
This devotional, written for girls ages 9–12, explores the theme of beauty to help young readers appreciate the beauty of God, and in turn, become more beautiful themselves.
2. Remind her of your affection.
In the gospel story, God’s affection isn’t something we earn but something that’s bestowed upon us. He loves us because he loves us (Deut. 7:6–8). His grace is a free gift (Rom. 5:15). But our flesh and world operate from a different story: affection must be earned. We have a huge opportunity to defy this tale by telling God’s instead, and we can do this by reminding our girls often of our affection, which stands regardless of what she looks like or what she has or hasn’t done.
This might look like a note in her lunchbox: “Praying for you today, and miss you!” It might look like a random “I love you” in an unexpected moment. It could mean open arms, listening ears, and an unshaken spirit when she confesses something hard. It always means forgiving her when she fails. And yes, it might mean a well-timed word: “Do you know that you’re beautiful, inside and out?” For these are the ways God loves us: thinking of us (Ps. 139:17–18), blessing us (Eph. 1:3–5), receiving us (Luke 15:11–32), and covering our sins (1 Pet. 4:8). Our God is love, and we have the marvelous privilege of showing his unconditional affection to our girls, both in our words and our actions.
3. Model contentment.
What message are we communicating through our example? It’s a humbling question, but it’s worth asking. If I’m constantly needing to “put on my face” before showing myself in public, that tells my daughters that beauty means a certain manner of appearance rather than simply being who God made me. As one example, I have made it a point on some days to wear no makeup and dress casually. I want them to know that it’s good to be comfortable and content in their own skin. Similarly, if I am always reaching for the next “new thing” to satisfy me, or if I’m scrolling my phone to affirm my identity, how can I expect her to do anything different? As they look at us, our girls are watching and wondering, What makes me beautiful?
Now, this is not prescriptive, and some readers will come to different conclusions about what contentment looks like. But generally, Scripture bundles contentment with godliness and says they are “great gain” (1 Tim. 6:6). What lens should we look through to help us discern what’s best? “For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world” (1 Tim. 6:7). We might ask ourselves: What are the things that will last forever? This isn’t to say that earthly gifts can’t be enjoyed—in Christ they are made holy and can honor him (1 Tim. 4:4–5)—but that earthly gifts are not ultimate. We will model contentment as we discern the difference and live as examples before our daughters.
Our God is love, and we have the marvelous privilege of showing his unconditional affection to our girls, both in our words and our actions.
4. Point out her God-given purpose.
Each one of us is fearfully and wonderfully made by our Creator (Ps. 139:13–14) with a unique purpose in the grand plan of God (Isa. 64:8). But the fallen world around us would distort these truths into autonomy and self-actualization: “Live for yourself!” “Be who you want to be!” “You do you!” The Christian gospel has a better message: “You’re made for something bigger than yourself—for an eternity of joy with Jesus. Now be who he made you to be!”
We have the privilege of countering the world’s empty mantras and reminding our girls of God’s undeniable, beautiful truth. We can remind her of her God-given purpose any time we pray for her, answer her hard and sensitive questions, process what’s happened that day, and encourage her when she’s down. This doesn’t happen once but in a thousand tiny moments over years and decades. Each one matters, and God can use them all to tell her longing heart, “You are beautiful because you are his.”
5. Let Scripture be her mirror.
Above everything and undergirding it all, the Word of God must be the mirror we use to discern what true and lasting beauty is, and what it looks like to reflect his beautiful glory (James 1:22–25). This is true for us as older women, and it will be true for our daughters too.
Are we looking daily into God’s law of liberty, which frees us from the lies of this world? Or are we letting the world’s distorted funhouse mirrors dictate what beauty is? The Spirit can use our example from the word and our teaching of it to reach into the hearts of these young ones and speak a different story—a story of hope: “For the coastlands shall hope for me . . . for the Holy One of Israel, because he has made you beautiful” (Isa. 60:8–9). May this good news of beautiful glory be our anthem, and may we speak it over our daughters every day as both her present reality and her future hope in the Lord Jesus, whose word has the final say.
Kristen Wetherell is the author of What Makes You Beautiful: 20 Daily Devotions for Girls.
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