How to Pray for the Soul (Yours or Another’s)

This article is part of the How to Pray series.

Praying in Sync with the Way God Works

For thoughtful people, how you pray for the soul is governed by how you believe God acts.¹ So, for example, if you believe God changes people’s souls so that they make new and right choices, then you will ask God to make those soul-changes through evangelism and nurture. But not everybody is thoughtful about the way they pray. They don’t think about what view of God is behind their praying.

So what I suggest is that we learn to pray for the soul first from the way the Bible prays for the soul. If we do that, then our prayers will probably be good prayers, and in the process we will also learn about how God acts.

Here is the way I pray for my soul. I use these prayers over and over again—for myself and my children and wife and for our pastoral staff and elders and for all my church. This is the meat and potatoes of my prayer life:

Taste and See

John Piper

Taste and See features 125 meditations by John Piper that awaken spiritual hunger, address life's most difficult questions, and nourish hearts with God’s satisfying grace.

The first thing my soul needs is an inclination to God and his word. Without that, nothing else will happen of any value in my life. I must want to know God and read his word and draw near to him. Where does that “want to” come from? It comes from God. So Psalm 119:36 teaches us to pray, “Incline my heart to thy testimonies, and not to gain!” (RSV)
Next, I need to have the eyes of my heart opened so that when my inclination leads me to the word, I see what is really there and not just my own ideas. Who opens the eyes of the heart? God does. So Psalm 119:18 teaches us to pray, “Open my eyes, that I may behold wonderful things from Your law.”
Then I need for my heart to be enlightened with these “wonders.” I need to perceive glory in them and not just interesting facts. Who enlightens the heart? God does. So Ephesians 1:18 teaches us to pray “that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened.”
Then I am concerned that my heart is badly fragmented and that parts of it might remain in the dark while other parts are enlightened. So I long for my heart to be united for God. Where does that wholeness and unity come from? From God. So Psalm 86:11 teaches us to pray, “O Lord, I will walk in Your truth; unite my heart to fear Your name.”
What I really want from all this engagement with the word of God and the work of his Spirit in answer to my prayers is that my heart will be satisfied with God and not with the world. Where does that satisfaction come from? It comes from God. So Psalm 90:14 teaches us to pray, “Satisfy us in the morning with your steadfast love, that we may rejoice and be glad all our days.” (ESV)
But I don’t want my happiness to be fragile or weak, but to be strong and durable in the face of the worst adversities. I want to be strong in joy, and persevering during the dark seasons. Where does that strength and durability come from? It comes from God. So Ephesians 3:16 teaches us to pray “that [God] would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man.”
I do not want my strength in Christ to simply be fruitful for me, but for others. Clearly “it is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35). So I want to produce good deeds and works of love for others, so that the glory of God will be seen in my life, and others will taste and see that the Lord is good. Who produces these good deeds of love? God does. So Colossians 1:10 teaches us to pray, “That [we] will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord . . . bearing fruit in every good work.”
Finally, lest the ultimate aim of it all be missed, I pray day after day—as a kind of banner flying over all my prayers—“Hallowed be thy name” (Matt. 6:9 RSV). Lord, cause your name to be known and feared and loved and cherished and admired and praised and trusted because of my life and ministry.

All this I pray in Jesus’s name, because God gives these things only on the basis of Jesus’s death. He died for me and removed the wrath of God so that the Father might freely give me all things (Rom. 8:32).

Lord, teach us to pray, from beginning to end, in a biblical way with a biblical view of how you act in the world. Show us yourself and how you work so that we might pray as we ought. And teach us to pray as we ought so that we might see how you work.

Notes:

Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations in this chapter are from the NASB 1995.

This article is adapted from Taste and See: 125 Meditations for the Godward Life by John Piper.

John Piper is founder and lead teacher of desiringGod.org and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary. He served for thirty-three years as a pastor at Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota, and is the author of more than fifty books, including Desiring God; Don’t Waste Your Life; and Providence.

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